Marriage: Weekly Discussions (Week 4)

Roses & Thorns:

Jon:

  • Rose – Our anniversary dinner.
  • Thorn – Co-workers not pulling their weight.

Angie:

  • Rose – Our IUI and how everything went much more smoothly than the last time.
  • Thorn – Not getting Jon’s bonus that we were expecting.

Weekly Discussion Topic/Question: What’s your ideal weekend?

Jon:  Spending it with you.  It doesn’t matter what we do as long as we are together.

Angie:  I feel the same, except I would add that my ideal weekend would include a                   nice balance of fun and getting things done.

Devotional/Book Reading: Sharing Desires taken from Gary Chapman’s The One Year Love Language Minute Devotional

Hope deferred makes the heart sick, but a dream fulfilled is a tree of life. – Proverbs 13:12

Synopsis: This reading speaks clearly that we, and our spouses are not mind readers.  It explains that we must effectively communicate to our spouse our expectations and desires so that they may act on them if they chose to do so.  It is important to remember that these are not demands and we have to do our best to communicate them in a way that does not come off as such.

Our takeaway:  We spoke about how we need to be upfront with each other and communicate what we need and want.  I (Angie) especially need to work on this because sometimes I do feel like I expect Jon to just know and people rarely work that way.  Jon mentioned that after 10 plus years together that we know each other well enough to already know a lot of what each other desires but that we can do a better job by being present and taking queues from each other.  It all comes down to communicating, listening and understanding each other.

You will be a better spouse and your spouse will be a better spouse to you if you learn to effectively communicate your wants, needs and desires in a productive manner.  It is up to you to pick up on those queues and show love to your spouse by fulfilling them.

Please share your rose and thorn for the week, along with the things you hope to happen in your life this year.  Do you feel like you do a good job communicating your desires with your spouse?  What about them?

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